It’s 2017 and all things related to Muslim marriages seems to be a hot topic amongst youngsters and elders alike! With Muslim matrimonial sites on the rise, with the likes of shaadi.com, singlemuslim and muzmatch who needs an auntijee for assistance anymore. It’s not 1940 where you literally meet your husband on the day of your marriage, catching a glimpse of him through your crimson red dupatta, or it’s not the 80’s where meeting your other half was through the contacts of a sociable auntijee.
With a click of a few buttons, you can find yourself meeting an eligible bachelor in no time at all. But before you do. I have put together a few pointers to help you have a meaningful online search experience.
1. Write down the three most important things that you’re looking for in a spouse. It might be that he must have eman and works on developing himself spiritually, it might be that he must be driven and ambitious in his chosen field or that he’s family orientated. Whatever it might be, make a mental note of this! The importance of doing this is so that you don’t lose focus of what’s important to you.
2. Yes you are in your 20’s and time seems to be ticking, all your friends, acquaintances, family friend’s sons and daughters are getting married like there is no tomorrow, you’ve just come back from a wedding wondering when is it going to be your time and you suddenly find yourself talking to a guy online and hurrying the communication along! Stop right there missy, breath and take it slowly it’s not a race! Men can smell desperation from a mile away, take your time in asking the questions that are important to you before you try to rush through all the steps. Enjoy the process, you might discover that you both have a sweet tooth or a common fascination for Bengal cats.
3. Writing about yourself is not easy, it may be a piece of cake for some and for others an arduous task. Take some time to read other people’s profile, no I’m not telling you to copy and paste what others have written, be original, get a feel for what you might want to say about yourself. Here are some questions to help you get started; What do you do professionally or what do you intend to do? What are you passionate about? What are your hobbies and interests? What drives you as a person? The best kind of profiles that I’ve read, are the ones that reveal alittle abit of personality and humour. They might crack a bad joke or tell you about how passionate they are about humanitarian work.
4. Be clear and concise by stating what is important to you right now and for your future. That way you both can assess if you’re right for one another and avoid wasting time.
5. Continue living your life and being your fabulous self. Don’t wait around for his next message and get bogged down with anxiety about when he will message you next and consumed with what he did or didn’t do. I’m a greater believer of being your most attractive when you’re feeling fabulous and at a good place in life. Continue meeting up with your girls, enjoying life and new experiences, developing yourself spiritually or professionally and spending time with your family.
And there you have it ladies, abit more than a thing or two. On a final note, I’m certainly no expert on this, and I may have left a few things out. Please feel free to comment and share your pointers. I want to make this blog as helpful as possible for all my fellow readers and your thoughts, opinions and experiences matter too.
Happy searching everyone!